Change Your Perception and Gain 5 Skill Points In Optimism

You’re having a shitty day. Nothing is going your way. You left your iPod at home and anytime you’ve tuned in to the radio, it’s been nothing but commercials. You’ve been running errands and somehow end up in the longest check-out line at the store. Traffic is horrendous and as hard as you try, you can’t seem to get in the faster lanes. Finally, some WoW time at home, but only after an hour-long patch.

Fuck your life.

By the time you actually do log in, the server’s unstable and nobody can stay connected for more than 5 minutes. After a rollback and restart – and a tank who’s 30 minutes late – you run Dragon Soul for the 10th time and that trinket still doesn’t drop. Or it drops, but some warlock prick wins the role, when it was so clearly a healer trinket.

Have you ever had days like that?

What’s funny is… whenever I’ve had days like that, I’d whine about it to D and he’d say, “Commercials? I hadn’t really noticed.” It’s interesting that what bothers me doesn’t bother him.

“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.” –Maya Angelou

Funny thing, the mind is. It plays tricks on us. Have you ever cringed while running over a dead animal on the road? Then you look back and realize that the dead animal wasn’t a dead animal at all, but rather, a sweater? And come to think of it, it did kind of look like a sweater when you first glanced at it. This is how the mind works sometimes. We take a perfectly average, safe thing and turn it into a vessel for negative feelings like anger, fear, and guilt.

I think the same can be said for how we look at what happens to us during the day. You’ve had a shitty day, have you? The day can’t get any worse, you say? Well go to a Children’s Hospital and spend some time there. Notice not only the children, but their parents. Imagine their agony. Now how do you feel? Your day doesn’t look quite so bad anymore, does it?

We are so damn spoiled. Break a nail and it’s “Fuck my life” or “Woe is me, my life sucks….” We need to learn to change our perception. Being in a negative state of mind isn’t fair to those around you. I know, I know: Easier said than done, right? Right. There are steps to change. You can’t just snap your fingers and: Voila! I’m an optimistic person now!

If you’re serious about changing your attitude, I highly suggest hooking up with a life coach or dragging a friend to a motivational seminar. It worked for me. If a seminar or life coach are out of your reach, spare an hour of your time to check out the 2006 documentary called The Secret. It discusses how to use The Law of Attraction to get what you want: Instead of complaining about what you don’t have, put yourself in the mindset of someone who has it and you’ll naturally develop the tools you need to get it. Just remember: You can change your perception, but no matter how hard you wish it to be so, you can’t change your life unless you get off your ass and do something about what’s making you unhappy.

“The world owes you nothing. It was here first.” –Mark Twain

If you’ve at least noticed that you’re not so fun to be around and want that to change, the first step is the hardest: Being consciously aware that you are for the most part, pessimistic. And you’ve done that. Congratulations! You’ve gained 5 skill points in Optimism.

And if you’re at a point where you just can’t seem to change your mindset, no matter how hard you try, then you might need to seek professional help. I suffered from untreated depression for years and no matter how hard I tried, I just couldn’t get my mind and body in sync.

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4 Responses
  1. Navimie says:

    I like the quotes you put in ! Might ninja them!

  2. MinoTheMad says:

    Absolutely! I’m catching all the red lights for the next 10 miles. A sarcastic co-worker is making me sick. In line at DLand some dolt behind me is screaming at the top of her lungs into her cell phone speaking a foreign language… f*ck! These are the lil’ curve-balls that life throws at us, the FMLife moments that can be veeeerrry difficult to shake off and snap out of that negative mindset. For years my first instinct would’ve been to lash out at these people or at the next person who irritates me. But life is full of ups and downs, and it’s important to keep in mind that these things too shall pass. After catching so many red lights, I’m bound to run through a green. My shift will be over soon, and after that DLand ride is over I’ll never see that irritating bitch again for the rest of my life :)

    Ultimately it really is a mental perception. We all feel it, we all go there. And that’s ok! Definitely tell a spouse, a family member, a friend what is bothering you. That’s what they’re there for. Talking about it helps immensely to release that weight off our shoulders.

    Another thing to ponder is observing the way animals act. Especially pets, which I don’t even like to call them that – they’re more like bff’s. If you have a dog, a cat or a bird… They don’t sweat the small stuff. My sweetheart Cristal doesn’t give two shits about that Coach collar that the neighbors dog is rockin’. Nor does she care what’s on the menu for dinner tonight. And she isn’t bothered with the fact that she didn’t get her diploma from Obedience School. They live in the present moment and love unconditionally. We can learn a lot from them…

    Remember that the pendulum will swing the other way. Some things are just out of our control, and it does us no good to beat ourselves up because of that. Be gentle with yourself…

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