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Comments on: Balancing WoW and Real Life: Understanding the Psychology of Addiction http://healovertimeblog.com/balancing-wow-and-real-life-understanding-the-psychology-of-addiction/ Musings Of A Bipolar Mompreneur Gamer Sketchnoter Thu, 09 Oct 2014 15:12:21 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.9.3 By: Annuin http://healovertimeblog.com/balancing-wow-and-real-life-understanding-the-psychology-of-addiction/#comment-266 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 16:55:11 +0000 http://healovertimeblog.com/?p=420#comment-266 WoW playing ebbs and wanes for me. Off-and-on I’ve played since 2006, but I’ve taken breaks of a year or several month blocks at various points.

I don’t think there’s a one-size-fits-all solution for solving the problem with WoW addiction, or finding a balance. I do think it’s important to realize consciously that these games are specifically made to keep you coming back for more, as the articles and psychologists you’ve quoted point out. (Likewise it’s important in venues such as Facebook to realize that they’re not trying to be magnanimous and provide a social experience for free, it’s that you are the product that’s being mined for data for advertisers. A company is always looking for some gain to you being there.)

Certainly it helps to identify the issues in your life that make you more susceptible to playing. I started back when I was up most nights with a (mentally handicapped) infant who had no discernible sleeping pattern, a (now ex-) husband who didn’t help with the nighttime parenting at all, and who would happily wander off to bed stating he had to work in the morning, a job where he had to think and I was just home all day and the implication was that obviously mothering isn’t something you use your brain for. We were relatively new in the area, few friends, none of my family and only a few more distant members of his. I was lonely and overwhelmed, and the social aspect of WoW was what hooked me.

Even the social aspect of WoW is deceptive though. It’s easy to feel closer and more connected to people, especially through the relative safety and anonymity of your screen and keyboard, I think it throws some things out of whack, makes you sometimes feel more deeply than you would if real-life filters were being applied to the interaction you were having with that person face-to-face. And I realized that all too often, friends in-game would fall away swiftly if you weren’t around in that world with them. I was putting too much meaning into these friendships and relationships, and using those as a reason to stay in-game, even though they weren’t as deep and meaningful as I had thought or hoped. It’s also easy to eschew real-life interactions and choose to spend time online rather than try and cultivate the off-line ones, keeping you in the cycle of not having enough people in your real life and keeping you coming back for the online camaraderie. Another trap.

Things that made me take steps back from the game were when there were some issues in my marriage, and some in-game drama caused by mixed signals and weirdness with some other people. Also I would sometimes be very aware that time spent in-game was time not used in any valuable or meaningful way, taking time away from doing other things, family time, hobbies that have a real tangible output (sewing/craft/etc.). If I spend time making things, or even reading a book, I find it more productive than being in WoW. And there’s nothing wrong with getting some entertainment out of something that has no tangible reward or end result, but it started bothering me that I had so much time invested in something that means nothing outside of WoW stats or iLvl or virtual “achievements” that vanish the moment you log out.

PastPlayer also pointed out some things that happened with my boyfriend and I. We burned out a lot just after Cata for the reasons s/he listed. That made walking away a lot easier too.

I can’t be all negative about WoW. Through the interactions there with people, I ended up coming to some important realizations about my marriage and my life. The marriage ended, some other friends have come and gone (necessarily, as while knowing them initially held value, it later turned toxic), and some other friends have stuck around. One of those friends is now someone I’ve been together with for almost 2 years, in the happiest and healthiest relationship I’ve had. We used WoW to play together when he lived interstate, and now we just started playing again together after having not played for a year or so.

I still have the addictive tendencies. Wanting to farm up for that bit of rep, those last few tokens, that little extra gold. I think it’ll always be a bit difficult as long as the game is installed. When I don’t have it, I don’t miss it as much. I do also have a healthier social life now, a healthier and happier overall life, and find enjoyment in some decidedly computer-free hobbies that give me the gratification of completed tangible items. The gratification there isn’t as fast as WoW’s, but it is certainly better.

By: Heidy http://healovertimeblog.com/balancing-wow-and-real-life-understanding-the-psychology-of-addiction/#comment-256 Mon, 20 Feb 2012 03:21:29 +0000 http://healovertimeblog.com/?p=420#comment-256 Hey,

I can totally relate to feeling the addiction creep up, but lately I’ve naturally just find myself disinterested in playing WoW. It’s funny that once you just let something go, it’s easy to detach, like a spectator watching a baseball game.

By: PastPlayer http://healovertimeblog.com/balancing-wow-and-real-life-understanding-the-psychology-of-addiction/#comment-242 Sun, 19 Feb 2012 03:12:54 +0000 http://healovertimeblog.com/?p=420#comment-242 i have been “off” WoW since March of 2011.

unfortunately, i never found the balance i needed between the game and real life. this may have something to do with the fact that my real life is out of balance as well – i work 6 months on a regular day schedule, then i spend 6 months working night shift.

there is a definite addiction factor to WoW – i considered myself a “hardcore” raider for the better part of 2009 and 2010 (until i got LK in mid-July). by hardcore, i mean i was in the top 300 players on three separate servers as i transferred a few times trying to find a guild that i didn’t have to shoulder half the DPS for. i never downed LK on 10 man. i didn’t want him on 10 man – finding 9 people to listen was easy. finding 24 other people and getting them coordinated enough to follow orders – that’s hard.

i think i “burned out” when Cataclysm came out for two reasons: i was out on disability for a stress fracture in my foot (i stand on my feet 7 hours each shift, and could not work with the cast on the floor) and was playing way too much, and i came to the conclusion that Cataclysm had gone too far in the effort-expended-reward-gained extreme. heroics had gone from comical (WotLK) to almost-impossible-without-raid-epics (Cat), and had stopped dropping the loot needed to make heroics less fail. in other words, we could spend 2 hours failing at a heroic, and when we finally got it, the loot wasn’t really worth it.

i don’t know where the balance is. i decided that until i can get my real life balanced, i shouldn’t play. if and when that happens, maybe i can start again and find the balance every player should be looking for.

By: Vuuk http://healovertimeblog.com/balancing-wow-and-real-life-understanding-the-psychology-of-addiction/#comment-185 Wed, 08 Feb 2012 13:40:36 +0000 http://healovertimeblog.com/?p=420#comment-185 I have taken some time off of WoW (for doing exams and such) and this emphasized what was one of the more addicting factors in the game for me: the social aspect.

In real life I am not asocial or anything, but I’m the quiet type, I’d say.
In WoW I feel like I’m one of the more talkative guildmembers.

This is on top of the other points you mentioned, which you can also find in SP games for the most part.

By: Ami http://healovertimeblog.com/balancing-wow-and-real-life-understanding-the-psychology-of-addiction/#comment-178 Tue, 07 Feb 2012 19:32:14 +0000 http://healovertimeblog.com/?p=420#comment-178 I too find myself glued to the computer screen playing World of Warcraft when I am in a bout of depression, and especially when I’m angry. I admit that I am introverted, and much of my anger was once directed inward. WoW became a not-so-great tool for keeping the anger from being directed at anyone outwardly OR myself.

On a summer break in high school, I found myself living and breathing World of Warcraft. I woke up at 5am and played until 10 or 12 that night, sleeping long enough to regain my energy before getting up to do it all over again. My parents even tried to put some sort of firewall on our router, which I cracked and got through with some tunneling experience.

Years later, I was finally starting to realize the effect WoW was having on my personal, school, and home life. I chose to put down the mouse and step away from the keyboard to spend more time with my family and friends. I had my moments where I would slip up and find myself doing 10-12 hour roleplay sessions with people in the game, but someone would always catch me after awhile and let me know that it was time to get up and go do something else.

I am now 20 years old, a mother to a beautiful baby boy, and married to someone who was also once a World of Warcraft addict. Admittedly, I was the person that got him into the game in the first place, as I was seeking another person to be able to play online with. We both struggled to work through our addictions to the game, and although I have somehow managed to tackle mine with time and even some therapy, I am still aiding my husband in working through his addiction.

I hope that you find the balance that you’re seeking, and as a recovering WoW addict, my thoughts are with you in your recovery.

By: Bea http://healovertimeblog.com/balancing-wow-and-real-life-understanding-the-psychology-of-addiction/#comment-177 Tue, 07 Feb 2012 16:30:07 +0000 http://healovertimeblog.com/?p=420#comment-177 I find it hard to fight addictions especially when I’m going through a bad depression bout. That being said, the instant gratification in World of Warcraft with little effort (along with the other factors you mentioned) is what I feel is the most difficult thing to deal with.

have to admit my life has, at some point, been affected by the intricacies of the game. My life has changed a lot in the past 6 months, and I feel like I spend just the right amount of time playing without neglecting my day to day responsibilities.

I hope you find the balance you need!